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How to Plan Your Same-Sex Wedding, when Traditional Weddings Feel Heteronormative

Posted on by Megan Hutchison

Do LGBTQ+ weddings follow the same traditions as heterosexual weddings?

Planning a same-sex wedding can be a unique experience, as many traditional wedding practices and customs are heteronormative and may not necessarily reflect the unique needs and preferences of LGBTQ+ couples. Should both brides be “given away” by their Fathers? Which Groom will wait at one end of the aisle? There are so many questions!

The beauty of an LGBTQ+ wedding is that couples have complete freedom to choose what is right for them. Of course, straight couples can personalise their day however they want, but for many, it almost seems easier to go with the status quo. As a gay couple, you have the opportunity (if not the need!) to break away from traditional wedding roles and customs, and truly personalize your special day.

How to Plan Your Same-Sex Wedding, when Traditional Weddings are Heteronormative

Marriage has always been an evolving institution. Its meaning and customs have changed over time, from arranged marriages and dowries, to marriage as a symbol of romantic love and commitment.

With creativity and thoughtfulness, you can plan a wedding that reflects your unique identity and celebrates your love for one another, without even thinking about the ‘hurdles’ of tradition. Remember, the most important thing is to create a wedding that feels authentic and true to your relationship, regardless of tradition or convention. Our wedding planner book is proudly gender neutral.

What are the traditional “Gender Roles” and Traditions at a wedding to Reinvent?

There are many elements of a wedding that are traditionally heteronormative, meaning they are based on assumptions about gender and sexuality that privilege heterosexual couples. Some examples include:

  1. Gender roles: Traditional weddings often involve strict gender roles, with the bride wearing a white dress and the groom wearing a suit. This reinforces the idea that weddings are only between a man and a woman.
  2. Wedding party: The wedding party is typically divided along gender lines, with bridesmaids and groomsmen. This reinforces gender norms and excludes people who don’t fit into traditional gender categories.
  3. The father giving away the bride: This tradition dates back to when daughters were seen as property of their fathers, who would transfer ownership to the groom. This reinforces the idea that women need to be given away and cannot make their own decisions.
  4. The bride taking the groom’s last name: This tradition reinforces the idea that women should take on their husband’s name and become part of his family.
  5. Heteronormative language: Many wedding ceremonies use language that assumes the couple is heterosexual, such as referring to the couple as “bride and groom” or using pronouns like “he” and “she”.
  6. Gendered expectations around attire, makeup, and hair: Brides are often expected to wear makeup and have their hair done, while grooms are expected to be more casually dressed. This reinforces gender norms and excludes people who don’t conform to them.

Here are some tips to help you plan your same-sex wedding:

  1. Choose attire that reflects your personal style, rather than traditional gender norms. For example, you might opt for a suit or a dress that challenges traditional gender norms.
  2. Have a non-traditional wedding party, with mixed gender or non-binary attendants.
  3. Use genderless names for your wedding party, ‘I do crew’ or whatever you choose to call the people (we’ve heard the use of everything from “bridesmen” to “groomswomen,” and love names like “best women,” “groomsmaids,” “men-of-honor” or genderless terms such as “attendants” or “party people”). In an LGBTQ+ wedding (in fact, in any wedding!), gender shouldn’t define anyone’s role. .” Tje little white book uses “wedding party” and “attendants”
  4. Giving away: Rather than being “given away” by a parent, each partner can walk down the aisle solo or with someone who supports them.
  5. Have a first-look ceremony before the ceremony, and then walk down the aisle together,or enter the ceremony in a way that feels authentic to your relationship.
  6. Other options are that a person of mutual importance can escort you both down the aisle on each arm, or you can proceed hand-in-hand if no one is being given away, or two brides or two grooms can come toward each other along two aisles converging at the altar at once.
  7. Rather than have a “Bride’s” and “Groom’s” side, have a non-traditional seating arrangement, such as a circular or non-binary arrangement for your ceremony.
  8. Choose non-gendered or LGBTQ+ affirming language for your ceremony, and eliminate much of the “traditional” wording which is outdated to many. Create a custom ceremony including language that is inclusive of their LGBTQ+ identity.
  9. Seek out vendors who are LGBTQ+ friendly and inclusive, and of course a wedding venue that is LGBTQ+ friendly and inclusive.. This can include wedding planners, caterers, and more, but I would suggest your photographers and wedding celebrant are the most important. You don’t want a wedding photographer who’s going to stage you in heteronormative poses that just aren’t ‘you’.
  10. Write your own vows that reflect your unique relationship and journey. Crafting your own vows is a simple and effective approach to ensure that the words exchanged on your special day genuinely represent the love shared between you and your partner, as well as the aspirations you hold for your future together.
  11. Have a unique first dance together that reflects your personalities or relationship.
  12. Parent dances: Rather than having a traditional father-daughter or mother-son dance, each partner can choose a parent or loved one to dance with.
  13. Bouquet toss/garter removal: These traditions can be omitted altogether, or both partners can participate if they choose.
  14. Genderless dress for guests: Encourage wedding guests to shun gender stereotypes when dressing for your occasion.
  15. Pre-wedding events: Bachelor/bachelorette parties can be combined into one celebration or reimagined to fit the couple’s interests.
  16. Wedding cake: The cake topper can feature two brides, two grooms, or a gender-neutral design.
  17. Family traditions: The couple can incorporate traditions from both of their families, regardless of whether they are traditionally associated with a bride or groom.
  18. Incorporate meaningful LGBTQ+ symbols, such as the rainbow flag into your ceremony or reception, or unique LGBTQ+ inspired wedding exit, such as a rainbow-colored confetti toss or a sparkler send-off.
  19. Create a vision board or mood board that reflects your style, personality, and interests. This can help guide your decisions as you plan your wedding.
  20. Have both partners exchange rings or other symbols of commitment.
  21. Include family or friends in your ceremony, such as having them read a poem or give a speech.
  22. Incorporate LGBTQ+ activism into your wedding, such as making a donation to an LGBTQ+ organization in lieu of favours, create a unique wedding hashtag that reflects your LGBTQ+ identity or consider incorporating non-traditional elements into your ceremony or reception, such as a drag performance.
  23. Create a surname that you both love, using parts of each of your names, or double-barrell your names.

Overall, a gay wedding celebrates the love and commitment between two people of the same gender, and offers the opportunity to create new traditions and celebrate diversity.

Writing the Groom’s Speech: The Ultimate Guide to Your Wedding Toast

Posted on by Megan Hutchison

Unless you’re a fan of public speaking, you’ve probably found your way here wondering how on earth you’re meant to begin writing the speech for your wedding day…

Well, as a groom, you’re in luck, the Groom’s Wedding Speech is actually a very simple, straightforward one to write, and with a couple of read-throughs, you’ll nail it (even if you are reading this the night before.

In what order should the Groom’s speech be?

A Groom’s Wedding Speech is one of the four traditional wedding speeches. Typically, the Groom’s wedding speech follows the speeches of the Father of the Bride and the Best Man, and is followed by the Maid of Honour (historically, a Bride would not make a speech). Of course, it will be completely up to you as a couple to decide who will be speaking, and what order that should be in (though someone may just surprise you and wish to speak on the day!), and of course, if this is a same-sex wedding, there may be two Grooms making speeches.  See all the different ways same-sex couples can reinvent the speech section of their wedding.

Why the Groom’s Speech is the Easiest Wedding Speech to Write

It’s often said that the groom’s speech is the easiest speech to write because it has a simple structure and purpose. Here are some reasons why:

  1. Shorter length: The groom’s speech is usually shorter than other speeches, such as the Father of the Bride or Best Man’s toast. This means that there is less pressure to come up with a lot of content, be particularly funny or entertaining, or even share personal stories – leave that up to the others if you wish.
  2. Simple structure: The Groom’s speech typically follows a very simple structure, starting with an opening thank you and acknowledgment of the Bride, followed by a brief anecdote or two, possibly about wedding planning (and how much or little you’ve had to do with it), and ending with a toast to the future. This structure makes it easy to plan and write the speech.
  3. Personal experience: The Groom’s speech is often based on personal experience, making it easier to write from the heart. The Groom can share stories about how he met his Bride, how he fell in love, or when he knew he wanted to marry her, which can easily make for a heartfelt and meaningful speech. Trust us, all anybody really wants to hear is how stunning you think your new wife is, and what a phenomenal job she has done planning the day (even if you think you took on a fair share of it!)

How to Write the Groom’s Wedding Speech

  1. Start with a plan

Before you begin writing your speech, it’s important to have a plan in place. Think about the key points you want to make and how you can weave them together into a cohesive message, possibly incorporating a point into both the introduction and conclusion.

  1. Begin with a strong opening

To captivate your audience from the start, consider beginning with a strong opening. This could be a heartfelt quote or a humorous story that sets the tone for the rest of your speech. The goal is to grab the attention of your audience and set the tone for the rest of your speech.

  1. Speak from the heart

The best wedding speeches are those that come from the heart. While it can be tempting to focus on jokes or generic sentiments, take the time to speak honestly about your feelings. Share what you love about your new spouse and what makes your relationship special. Speak from the heart, and your words will be sure to resonate with your audience.

  1. Keep it concise

While you may have a lot to say, it’s important to keep your speech concise. Aim for a speech that lasts around five minutes, as anything longer can cause your audience to lose interest. Stick to the key points you want to make and be mindful of your audience’s attention span.

  1. Include humor

Wedding speeches don’t have to be serious all the time. In fact, including humor can be a great way to engage your audience and lighten the mood. Consider adding a funny story or anecdote to your speech to break up the more serious moments., practice, practice.

  1. Practice Reading Your Speech

Once you’ve written your speech, it’s time to practice. Read it out loud several times to get a feel for how it sounds and to make sure it flows well. Consider practicing in front of a mirror or in front of a friend to get feedback. The more you practice, the more comfortable you’ll feel delivering your speech on the big day.

What should the Groom actually say in his wedding speech?

Of course, the groom’s wedding speech is also an opportunity to express his love and appreciation for his partner in front of friends and family. It’s a chance to share heartfelt words that capture the essence of their relationship and the depth of his feelings. While there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to writing a groom’s speech, the following tips can help create a personal and loving tribute:

  1. Start with gratitude: Begin by thanking everyone for being there to celebrate this special day. Express your gratitude for their love and support, and how much it means to have them all there with you.
  2. Acknowledge your partner: Take a moment to acknowledge your partner and how much they mean to you. Share a personal story about how you met or something that has strengthened your relationship over time. Speak from the heart and let your emotions guide you. Thank them, if they have worked really hard to plan the wedding, as it has probably been a huge emotional undertaking for them too.
  3. Speak to their qualities: Talk about the qualities you admire in your partner, such as their kindness, compassion, sense of humor, or intelligence. Share specific examples that demonstrate these traits and how they have impacted your life.
  4. Express your love: This is the perfect opportunity to express your love and affection for your partner. Use language that is personal and meaningful to you, whether it’s through poetry, song lyrics, or your own heartfelt words.
  5. Make promises: A wedding is a celebration of a lifelong commitment, so take this opportunity to make promises to your partner about the future you will build together. Reinforce the vows you wrote to each other. You might promise to support them through thick and thin, to always be their partner in life, or to continue growing and learning together.
  6. Thank the families: Thank both families for their love and support, and for coming together to celebrate this special day. Acknowledge any special people in your partner’s life, such as parents or grandparents, and express your gratitude for their presence.
  7. End with a toast: Raise a glass to your partner, your families, and your future together. Invite everyone to join you in celebrating this joyous occasion and toast to the happiness and love that lies ahead.

Is there anything the Groom shouldn’t say in his speech?

Ah, yes, we’re so glad you asked, there are a few things never to include in a wedding speech.

  1. No matter how funny the anecdote sounds to you on paper, ex-girlfriends or past relationships for either party are off the table. It’s best to avoid this topic entirely.
  2. Controversial or sensitive topics: Weddings are a time to celebrate love and happiness, so it’s best to avoid controversial or sensitive topics that could potentially upset or offend guests. This could include politics, religion, or other divisive issues.
  3. Inside jokes or stories that are inappropriate: While inside jokes and stories can be entertaining, it’s important to consider whether they are appropriate for a wider audience. If a story or joke could potentially embarrass or offend someone, it’s best to avoid it.
  4. Negative comments about anyone (ANYONE): A wedding is a time to celebrate and show love, so it’s important to avoid negative comments or criticism of anyone. This includes family members, friends, vendors, or even the bride or groom themselves. Don’t resort to self-deprecating humour, this just isn’t the time. See etiquette guide to wedding speeches.

Remember, the most important thing is to speak from the heart and be true to yourself. While it can be tempting to focus on jokes or generic sentiments, take the time to speak honestly about your feelings. Share what you love about your new spouse and what makes your relationship special. Speak from the heart, and your words will be sure to resonate with your audience. Don’t worry too much about getting the words perfect – the emotion behind them is what really counts. With these tips in mind, you can create a personal and loving tribute to yo.ur partner that will be remembered for years to come.

Finally, the best, most entertaining and engaging speeches are ones which are to the point and concise. Aim for a speech that lasts around five minutes, as anything longer can cause your audience to lose interest. Stick to the key points you want to make and be mindful of your audience’s attention span.

How To Plan Your New Zealand Elopement

Posted on by Megan Hutchison

New Zealand is a stunning destination for an elopement. With breathtaking landscapes, diverse scenery, and a relaxed and welcoming culture, it’s no wonder that so many couples choose to celebrate their love here, as well as of course Kiwi couples eloping at home. In 2013, New Zealand become the 13th country to legalize same sex marriage, and since then it has also become a popular country for same-sex couples to come to for their elopement.

If you’re considering eloping in New Zealand, here’s how to plan your perfect day. First though, what does it mean to “Elope”?

What is an Elopement?

An elopement is a wedding ceremony usually planned in secret, often involving just the couple, an an officiant and the legally required witnesses. It is often a private, intimate ceremony that can take place in a unique location, such as a beach, forest, or mountaintop (where traditional weddings may not be able to). Unlike a traditional wedding, elopements are usually simple and low-key affairs that prioritise the couple’s love for each other over the spectacle of a large event.

Why would a couple choose to elope?

Elopements have become increasingly popular in recent years, as many couples seek to forgo the stress and expense of a traditional wedding and instead focus on the intimate moments and experiences that matter most to them. Of course, due to the disruption to travel caused by Covid-19, many couples have also been forced to consider marrying in a small ceremony, as their family and friends couldn’t travel to them. However, there are also some very appealing benefits to planning an elopement over a large wedding.

Benefits of an Elopement

  1. Intimacy: Elopements are often more intimate and private than traditional weddings, which can be overwhelming and stressful for some couples. Elopements allow the couple to focus on their love for each other and create a special, personal experience that is shared only between them.
  2. Unique Location: Many couples choose to elope in a location that holds special meaning for them, such as a scenic spot where they first met, a destination they’ve always wanted to visit, or a place that reflects their shared interests or values. Eloping in a unique location allows the couple to create a truly memorable and meaningful wedding experience.
  3. Cost: Traditional weddings can be very expensive, with the “average wedding” in New Zealand costing over $30,000. Eloping can be a more affordable option for couples who want to celebrate their love without breaking the bank. By eliminating many of the costs associated with a traditional wedding (many of which are due to guest numbers), couples can use their savings to fund travel, accommodations, or other experiences that enhance their elopement.
  4. Freedom: Eloping can be a great option for couples who want the freedom to plan their wedding on their own terms. Without the pressure of family or societal expectations, couples can create a wedding experience that reflects their unique personalities, interests, and values.
  5. Minimal Planning: Planning a traditional wedding can be a stressful and time-consuming process. By contrast, elopements are often more simple and low-key affairs that require minimal planning. This can be a great option for busy couples who don’t have the time or energy to plan a big wedding. You may still wish to consider using a wedding planner book such as our little white book, to help keep track of all the little details, and have a keepsake of your special experience.

Elopements can also be a great option for couples who want to marry in a location that holds special meaning for them, such as a place they’ve traveled together or a spot where they first met.

It’s worth noting that while elopements were traditionally associated with running away to get married without parental consent, today elopements are simply a choice for couples who want a more intimate, personal, and unique wedding experience.

Pick a location for your New Zealand elopement.

New Zealand is a vast country with a variety of landscapes to choose from. From snow-capped mountains to pristine beaches, lush rainforests to rolling hills, the options are endless. Take some time to consider what type of scenery appeals to you and your partner. Do you want to exchange vows in a secluded forest glade or on a windswept cliff overlooking the ocean? Do you dream of saying “I do” in front of a glacier or a sparkling lake? Once you’ve narrowed down your preferences, research specific locations that match your vision.

Some popular locations for elopements in New Zealand (see also Top 10 New Zealand Wedding Venues) include:

  • Queenstown and Wanaka: These scenic towns in the South Island offer stunning mountain vistas, crystal-clear lakes, and a range of adventure activities.
  • Fiordland National Park: This UNESCO World Heritage site is home to some of New Zealand’s most dramatic landscapes, including Milford Sound and Doubtful Sound.
  • Abel Tasman National Park: Located in the north of the South Island, Abel Tasman is known for its golden beaches, turquoise waters, and lush coastal forests.
  • Coromandel Peninsula: This scenic area on the North Island boasts stunning beaches, rugged coastlines, and picturesque towns.

Set Your Elopement Date

New Zealand’s climate varies widely depending on the region and time of year. The peak tourist season is from December to February, when the weather is warm and sunny. However, this also means that popular destinations can be crowded and prices can be higher. If you prefer a quieter, more affordable experience, consider eloping during the shoulder seasons of spring (September-November) or autumn (March-May). Winter (June-August) can be a magical time to elope in New Zealand, with snow-capped mountains and cosy lodges offering a romantic backdrop.

Once you’ve chosen a time of year, consider any other factors that may affect your date. For example, some locations may be closed or inaccessible during certain seasons, or you may need to book well in advance to secure your preferred date.

Decide on Your (Possibly very small) Guest List

One of the benefits of eloping is that you can keep your wedding guest list as small as you like. Some couples choose to invite only their witnesses (required for legal purposes), while others may invite a few close family members or friends. Remember, eloping is about celebrating your love in an intimate way, so don’t feel pressured to invite anyone who doesn’t enhance that experience.

Hire A few select Wedding Vendors to bring your Elopement Dreams to Life

Depending on your preferences and budget, you may want to hire vendors to help make your elopement special. Here are some vendors to consider:

  • Photographer: A professional photographer can capture your special day and create lasting memories. Some photographers advertise as specifically elopement photographers.
  • Officiant: You’ll need to find a New Zealand celebrant to legally marry you. Consider hiring someone who resonates with your values and beliefs. In New Zealand, they will have to be a legal officiant, for it to be a legal marriage.
  • Florist: Flowers can add a beautiful touch to your elopement. Consider choosing local blooms that are in season.
  • Hair and Makeup Artist: Consider hiring a hair and makeup artist who can create a look that matches your vision.

Plan your Elopement Ceremony

Elopements can be as simple or elaborate as you like. Consider the style and format of your ceremony, including any readings, music, or vows. If you’re not sure where to start, think about what is important to you and your partner. Do you want to write your own vows or recite traditional ones? Do you want to include a special ritual or symbolic gesture in your ceremony, such as lighting a unity candle or exchanging rings? Think about what will make your ceremony feel personal and meaningful to you both.

If you’re not sure where to start, consider working with your officiant/celebrant to create a ceremony that reflects your values and personalities. Many officiants are experienced in helping couples create personalized ceremonies that are tailored to their preferences.

Consider the Legal Requirements of Eloping

Before you can get married in New Zealand, you’ll need to obtain a New Zealand marriage license. This process can take up to three days, so be sure to plan ahead. You’ll also need two witnesses over the age of 18 to sign your marriage licence (who must be present at the ceremony).

If you’re not a New Zealand citizen or resident, you may need to provide additional documentation to obtain your marriage license. Check with the Department of Internal Affairs for specific requirements.

Plan the Details of Your Elopement

Once you’ve chosen your location, date, and vendors, it’s time to plan the details of your elopement. Here are some things to consider:

  • What to Wear: Choose attire that is comfortable and suits the location and season. Consider the weather and any physical activities you’ll be doing, if you have to get to an obscure location.
  • Transportation: Decide how you’ll get to and from your ceremony location. If you’re getting married in a remote area, you may need to hire a car or arrange for a shuttle. In Queenstown, many also hire a helicopter.
  • Accommodation: If you’re staying in New Zealand for a few days, you’ll need to book accommodation. Consider staying in a romantic lodge, cabin, or glamping site that matches the style and ambiance of your elopement.
  • Celebratory Meal: After your ceremony, consider celebrating with a special meal. Many lodges and restaurants offer romantic dining options, you may be able to find a private dining room for your guests if you wish, such as at Eichardts in Queenstown.
  • Activities: Depending on your location, you may want to incorporate activities into your elopement. Consider what activities will enhance your experience and make your day special.

Celebrate Your Elopement

Finally, after all the planning and preparation, it’s time to celebrate your love! Take time to savor the moment and enjoy the beauty of your surroundings. Take lots of photos to remember your special day, record it in your wedding planner book or buy our marriage journal to record your celebration, and always look back on the unforgettable experience.

Eloping in New Zealand can be an unforgettable experience. With stunning landscapes, a welcoming culture, and plenty of opportunities for adventure, it’s no wonder that so many couples choose to celebrate their love here. By following these steps and planning ahead, you can create a beautiful and memorable elopement that reflects your unique love story.

How to Write a Wedding Speech to Your Husband

Posted on by Megan Hutchison

Writing a wedding speech can be nerve-wracking, especially when it’s one of the most important days of your life. However, it’s also a unique opportunity to express your love and appreciation for your groom in front of your friends and family. Your speech should be a reflection of your relationship, and should showcase the love, joy, and gratitude you feel on this special day.

Tips on Writing your Wedding Speech to your Groom / Future Husband

To help you write a heartfelt and meaningful wedding speech, here are some tips and advice to keep in mind:

  1. Start with a heartfelt introduction

Your introduction should set the tone for your speech and should immediately capture the attention of your audience. You could start by thanking your guests for coming, and then express your excitement and happiness at marrying your groom. You could also start with a quote or anecdote that highlights your love for your groom and sets the tone for the rest of your speech.

  1. Share personal stories and memories

The best speeches are those that are personal and heartfelt. Share some personal stories and memories that highlight your love for your groom. For example, you could talk about the moment you knew he was the one, or the first time you met him. You could also talk about some of the things that you love about him, such as his sense of humor or his kindness.

  1. Express your gratitude

Express your gratitude to your groom for everything he has done for you, and for being the person he is. You could talk about how he has supported you, made you laugh, or helped you through tough times. Don’t be afraid to get emotional – this is a special moment, and it’s okay to show your feelings.

  1. Offer words of encouragement and support

Your speech should be a celebration of your love and commitment to each other. Offer words of encouragement and support for the future, and talk about the adventures you hope to share together. You could also talk about the challenges you have overcome as a couple, and how you will face any future challenges together.

  1. End with a toast

Finally, end your speech with a toast to your groom, your families, and your future together. Raise your glass and express your love and excitement for the future.

In addition to these tips, here are some more specific things to keep in mind when writing your speech:

  • Keep it concise. Your speech should be no longer than five minutes, so make every word count.
  • Practice, practice, practice. Rehearse your speech several times before the wedding day, so you feel comfortable and confident.
  • Consider your audience. Your speech should be appropriate for all ages and backgrounds, so avoid inside jokes or anything too personal.
  • Don’t be afraid to be funny. Humor is a great way to break the ice and keep your audience engaged, but make sure it’s appropriate and not at the expense of anyone.
  • Use props or visual aids if necessary. If you have a funny or sentimental photo or item that relates to your speech, consider using it to add an extra touch of personalization.
  • Speak from the heart. Your speech should be a reflection of your love and appreciation for your groom, so don’t be afraid to show your emotions.

Wedding Speech Example [To My Husband]

Dear Husband (a word I can’t wait to get used to and I know I’m going to overuse for the next few weeks)

As your partner, your confidant, and your best friend, I want to take this opportunity to thank you, and in front of all the people most important to us, express my love and gratitude for you and all that you do for me. You are truly one of a kind, and I can’t imagine my life without you.

When I think about what I love most about you, it’s your kind heart, your unwavering support, and your infectious sense of humor. You make me feel loved and cherished every day… [An opportunity to be specific]

As we stand here today, surrounded by our loved ones, I am filled with joy and gratitude that we have found each other out of the billions of people in the world. I truly believe, you are my person. You have been my rock through the good times and the bad, and I know that with you by my side, we can conquer anything that comes our way [specific examples].

As I look forward to our future together, I am excited for all the adventures that lie ahead. I know that with you, life will be full of love, laughter, and endless possibilities. I hope that we [example]

So, my dear husband, I want to thank you for being my soulmate, my partner, and my best friend. I promise to love you unconditionally, to support you in all that you do, and to cherish every moment that we have together.

Cheers to us, my love, and to a lifetime of happiness and love. To our forever.

[End]

Finally…

Make it personal, make it real. Your speech should be a reflection of your relationship, and should showcase the love, joy, and gratitude you feel on this special day.

When considering your wedding speeches and looking to the future, don’t forget the best relationships, and the marriages that last the distance are the ones who put the work in. Make your marriage a priority, be each other’s cheerleader, grow together, communicate. Discover our couple’s journals including I still do wedding anniversary journal, to encourage you to do so.

How to Write Wedding Vows for Your Big Day: A Personal Touch

Posted on by Megan Hutchison

Your wedding vows are your heartfelt and very personal promises to each other, but the idea of writing them yourselves, and then performing them in front of family and friends can feel a litlte overwhelming. Though you can choose to use the “traditional vows”, most couples opt to write their own vows, or at least personalise them. Writing your own vows adds a personal touch to the ceremony, and reflects your unique love story. To help couples to include their personal quirks and what is so special about their relationship, we include “our love story” pages in the little white book wedding planner, to prompt you to write about what makes your bond so special, as you plan your Big Day.

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Why You Should Write Your Own Vows

Writing your own vows allows you to express your love and commitment in your own words – it makes the promises feel a lot more ‘real’ and ‘personal’. It is a chance to speak from the heart and to create a more meaningful and intimate ceremony. It can also help calm nerves and make the ceremony more special, sharing your own quirky stories, and feeling like yourselves, rather than just reading something written decades ago by someone else.

Your vows are the promises you make to each other, and they can be as simple or as complex as you want them to be. You have complete creative control, and the freedom to make them as personal and unique as you want.

The best wedding vows will be personal, meaningful, and heartfelt. They will express your love and commitment to your partner in a way that feels authentic to your relationship. Some key elements that make good wedding vows include:

  1. Personalisation: Your vows should reflect your unique love story and the special qualities that you appreciate in your partner. Avoid just using cliches or generic phrases and instead focus on what makes your relationship special.
  2. Honesty: Your vows must be honest and sincere. This may mean acknowledging any challenges you may have faced as a couple, while also expressing your unwavering commitment to your partner.
  3. Emotion: Your vows should come from the heart and be filled with emotion. Whether you express your love through words or actions, your partner should be able to feel the depth of your emotions.
  4. Specificity: Your vows should be specific and not general. You can use examples, anecdotes, and shared memories to make your vows more personal and meaningful.
  5. Humour: You don’t have to be serious all the time. Including a bit of humour, or a lighthearted approach to this part of the service will make your vows more memorable and engaging for your guests, but also put each other at ease.
  6. Length: There’s no set length for wedding vows, but they should be long enough to express your love and commitment while also being concise enough to keep your guests engaged. Aim for about one to three minutes of speaking time.

Ultimately, the key to writing your wedding vows is to be true to yourselves. Speak from the heart and express your love in a way that feels authentic to your relationship. Consider how you want to make your partner feel as they hear your vows, and what would make you feel special and loved, to hear from them.

10 Tips for Writing Your Wedding Vows

Writing your vows can be daunting, especially if you are not used to putting your feelings into words. Here are some tips to help you get started:

  1. Start by reflecting on your relationship and your future together. What are the qualities you love most about your partner? What are some of the challenges you have faced together, and how have you grown from them? What are your hopes and dreams for the future?
  2. Consider the structure of your vows. Do you want to start with a personal story or anecdote? Do you want to make promises to each other? Do you want to share affirmations of your love and commitment?
  3. Be sincere and genuine in your writing. Your vows don’t need to be long or overly elaborate. The most important thing is that they come from the heart and express your love and commitment to your partner. Keep your language simple and sincere, and focus on the things that matter most to you and your partner.
  4. Consider your partner’s personality and preferences. Think about what your partner likes and dislikes, what makes them happy and what doesn’t, and what they value most in life. This can help you tailor your vows to your partner’s personality and make them feel even more special.
  5. Look for inspiration. If you’re struggling to come up with ideas, look for inspiration from other sources (we include some at the end of this article). You can read poems, quotes, or love letters to get ideas for your own vows. You can also read other couples’ wedding vows for inspiration.
  6. Think about your relationship with your partner and what you have gone through together. Reflect on the moments that defined your love and the qualities that you admire in them. Write down some anecdotes or stories that showcase your love for one another.
  7. Think about your future together – As you write your vows, think about your future together as a married couple. What do you want to achieve together? What are your dreams for your life together? Share your vision of your future with your partner and express your commitment to making it happen.
  8. Write a promise – A vow is a promise, so include one in your wedding vows. Think about what you promise to your partner, whether it’s to love and cherish them for the rest of your life, to be their rock in difficult times, or to always support their dreams and goals. Make it personal and meaningful to your relationship.
  9. Include humour – Wedding vows don’t have to be completely serious. Don’t be afraid to include some cute, funny lighthearted moments in your vows. Share some stories about your time together or make a witty promise to your partner. Just make sure it’s in good taste and won’t offend anyone in attendance.
  10. Practice, Practice, Practice – Once you’ve written your vows, practice reading them out loud. It’s important to make sure that they sound good when spoken, and that you’re comfortable saying them in front of others. Practice with your partner, a friend, or in front of a mirror until you’re confident with your delivery.

5 Wedding Vow Examples to get you Started

  1. “I promise to always be your partner (and partner-in-crime!) your confidante, and your biggest supporter and cheerleader. I will love you, cherish you, care for you, and encourage you to follow your dreams. I will be patient, kind, and understanding, and I promise to always communicate openly and honestly with you. I vow to love you more each day, and to be your partner for as long as I live.”
  2. “Today I promise to love you unconditionally, to support you in your goals and dreams, and to always be there for you through thick and thin. I promise to be your best friend, your soulmate, and your partner in all things. I vow to say yes every time you suggest getting takeaways, to remember not to ask you important questions before you’ve had your first coffee, and to never doubt your sense of direction, even when it feels like we are going around in circles. I will loe you always, comfort you when you need it, and to always hold your hand through life’s ups and downs.”
  3. “As I stand here before you today, I give you my heart and my soul. I promise to be your rock, your safe haven, and your home forever. I vow to love you fiercely and to always honour and respect you. I will be your cheerleader – to support you in your passions and encourage you to be your best self. I promise to grow with you, to learn with you, and to always cherish and appreciate the amazing person you are.”
  4. “From this day forward, I vow to be your partner in all things. I promise to be patient, compassionate, and understanding, and to always strive to see things from your perspective. I will be your strength when you need it, and your soft place to fall when life gets tough. I vow to love you unconditionally, to laugh with you, and to always cherish the precious moments we share together.”
  5. “I promise to be your faithful and loving partner, to stand by you through thick and thin, and to always support you in your dreams and aspirations. When you need a friend, I will be your best friend. When you need help, I will be there for you. When you need care, I will support you. When you want to try something new, I will encourage you. And when you do the same for me, I will appreciate you. But if you don’t… I will forgive you.”

When considering your vows and looking to the future, don’t forget the best relationships, and the marriages that last the distance are the ones who put the work in. Make your marriage a priority, be each other’s cheerleader, grow together, communicate. Discover our couple’s journals including I still do wedding anniversary journal, to encourage you to do so.

How to Stay Motivated with your Baby Book

Posted on by Megan Hutchison

As parents, we know those early days are fleeting. We try to capture as much of them as we can – first smiles, first laugh, first steps – we fill our phones with photos and scroll through them as our babies grow. While those photos tell part of the story, there’s so much more to remember, and many of us wish to also create a Baby Book to fill with all the little memories. As with almost everything in motherhood – there’s a juggle between time, energy and motivation to get things done, but there is nothing like putting pen to paper to document their little lives.

If you’re planning on starting a Baby Book, or you need help being consistent with it, here are some tips to staying motivated (from the Mum so obsessed with baby journals, she’s turned them into her full time job).

Start with writing just a couple of lines – and build a habit

It can be daunting to write in your Baby Book for the first time – which pen to use, how neat you want your writing to be, having enough time and mental clarity to start. Don’t wait for the perfect time, just begin. Start with a few lines, a quote, a thought, a little memory of something funny that happened. It’s much more motivating to be writing a little in your book every now and then, than feeling pressured to fill it in one go – and it’s also much easier to continue, than it is to start.

Take advantage of voice technology when you’re busy

One thing I have found extremely useful is the ability to record on the go – whether it’s making a voice recording, or dictating straight into your notes app. There’s always going to be busy periods when you struggle to write things down, but being able to listen or read back what you wrote will be very useful in filling in your Baby Book.

Keep Expectations Realistic

One of the reasons parents may struggle to stay consistent with writing in a baby book is because they set unrealistic goals for themselves. Instead of trying to write every day, consider setting a goal to write once a week or once a month. This will help make the task feel more manageable and achievable.

Write in your Baby Book before you add photos

When starting your Baby Book, it can be really tempting to try and organise your photos for putting in the book first – and you’ve already taken hundreds. However, you have nothing to lose by saving those photos to print later, and starting to write. The science of ‘Mum-brain’ is real, and our babies change so fast that most of us forget the little details, so prioritising the process of actually writing down and documenting those little things we haven’t taken photos of, makes for a Baby Book full of memories, as well as photos.

Start a ‘Baby Book’ photo album in your phone for printing later

As you scroll through your photos, rather than just ‘favourite’ the best ones, add them to a ‘Baby Book’ album/folder in your phone. Having all these photos in one place will not only make it easier to print when you are ready to, but can also be useful to flick through for a reminder as you’re writing in details of each month, and makes it easy to remember milestone dates, such as first tooth, or first trip to the beach, etc.

Make it Part of your Routine

Incorporate writing in the baby book into your daily routine. For example, you could write in the baby book every morning after breakfast or every evening before bed. This will help create a habit and make it easier to stay consistent.

Help with jogging your memory if you’re backdating your Baby Book

If you’re backdating a few weeks (or months) back and brain fog is making it hard, try scrolling back through conversations with your partner, parents or any Mum-group or Mum-friends you have. Those notes you send each other in the middle of the night are a true insight into the reality of having a baby, and are the perfect things to record in your baby book too.

Choose a Baby Book or Baby Journal you really love, and want to use

You may be given a one for your Baby Shower, but if you’re choosing your own, the most important thing is that it’s one you really want to use. Ideally, one that you love the look of, and will keep on display in your nursery, as a visual cue and reminder to pick it up and fill it in. As well as how it looks, you want to love the experience of using it. We sell two very different styles, because not all parents have the same priorities and style of using them. Our more traditional Baby Book (Birth to Five years) is filled with questions and illustrations to guide you to record each month and year, and each page is different – to keep it interesting to use. Our Baby Journals are the opposite, they offer complete flexibility for parents, the pages are the same, and the journal prompts are on gold foil stickers, so that you can choose which one feels right to use at the time, you decide how much to write for each, and even how often to write in them – there’s no pressure to write at any particular time.

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Keep it Simple – Just a few minutes to write a note is still valuable

Writing in a baby book doesn’t have to be a lengthy, detailed process. Even a few sentences or a quick note can capture a moment or memory. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to write a novel every time you sit down to write.

Don’t Give Up Just Because you’ve Missed some time.

Finally, don’t give up if you miss a week or two of writing. Life gets busy, and it’s easy to fall behind. Just pick up where you left off and keep going. Remember, any amount of writing in a baby book is better than none at all.

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120 Journal Prompts for Gratitude

Posted on by Megan Hutchison

It’s no secret that we’re journal obsessed, and as our gratitude journal has been making headlines, we thought we’d share a few journal prompts we love. These aren’t the journal prompt stickers in our gratitude journal, but they are some of our other favourites, and I hope you’ll love using them.

If you are seeking more inspiration for your gratitude journal practice, take a moment to look at note to self journal.

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100 gratitude journal prompts:

  1. What is something that happened today that you are grateful for?
  2. Write about a person in your life that you are thankful for and why.
  3. What is a place that you are grateful to have visited or spent time in?
  4. Write about a time when someone did something kind for you that you are still grateful for.
  5. What is a lesson that you have learned from a difficult experience that you are now grateful for?
  6. Write about a possession that you are grateful to own.
  7. What is a memory from your childhood that you are thankful for?
  8. Write about a hobby or activity that you enjoy and are grateful to have.
  9. What is something that you have accomplished that you are proud of and grateful for?
  10. Write about a pet or animal that you are grateful to have in your life.
  11. What is a personal quality that you possess that you are grateful for?
  12. Write about a book or movie that has had a positive impact on your life that you are grateful for.
  13. What is a skill or talent that you possess that you are grateful for?
  14. Write about a friendship that you are grateful to have.
  15. What is a food or meal that you are grateful to have access to?
  16. Write about a teacher or mentor that you are grateful to have had in your life.
  17. What is a piece of technology that you are grateful to own or use?
  18. Write about a positive change that you have experienced in your life that you are grateful for.
  19. What is a cultural or family tradition that you are grateful to have?
  20. Write about a time when you received unexpected help or support that you are grateful for.
  21. What is a challenge or obstacle that you have overcome that you are grateful for?
  22. Write about a natural wonder or landscape that you are grateful to have experienced.
  23. What is a piece of art or music that you are grateful to have encountered?
  24. Write about a charity or cause that you are grateful to support.
  25. What is a volunteer experience that you are grateful to have had?
  26. Write about a place that you are grateful to call home.
  27. What is a physical ability or attribute that you are grateful for?
  28. Write about a coworker or colleague that you are grateful to work with.
  29. What is a way that you are able to give back to others that you are grateful for?
  30. Write about a vacation or trip that you are grateful to have taken.
  31. What is a family member that you are grateful to have in your life?
  32. Write about a musical instrument or sport that you are grateful to participate in.
  33. What is a memory from a special event or celebration that you are grateful for?
  34. Write about a lesson or insight that you gained from a difficult conversation that you are grateful for.
  35. What is a way that you are able to express yourself creatively that you are grateful for?
  36. Write about a language or culture that you are grateful to have learned about.
  37. What is a social media account or website that you are grateful to follow or use?
  38. Write about a way that you have been able to help someone else that you are grateful for.
  39. What is a person or group that inspires you that you are grateful to have discovered?
  40. Write about a way that you are able to connect with nature that you are grateful for.
  41. What is a way that you are able to volunteer or donate that you are grateful for?
  42. Write about a mentor or role model that you are grateful to have in your life.
  43. Write down a core memory from your childhood
  44. What are three things you are grateful for today? Why are they important to you?
  45. Who is someone in your life that you are grateful for? What qualities do they possess that you appreciate?
  46. Write about a difficult situation you experienced in the past that you now see as a blessing in disguise. How did this experience help you grow and what are you grateful for in relation to it?
  47. What is a small thing that happened today that brought you joy or happiness? Why did it make you feel grateful?
  48. Write a thank you note to someone who has made a positive impact on your life. What do you appreciate about them and how have they inspired you?
  49. What is a personal accomplishment that you are proud of? How did you achieve it and who helped you along the way?
  50. Write about a person who has been supportive and encouraging in your life. How have they made a difference for you?
  51. What is something you own that brings you joy or comfort? Why do you appreciate it?
  52. Write about a natural wonder or beautiful landscape that you are grateful for. What is special about it and why do you appreciate it?
  53. What is a favorite memory from your childhood? What makes it special and why are you grateful for it?
  54. Write about a skill or talent that you have that you are grateful for. How has it enriched your life and the lives of others?
  55. What is a book or piece of writing that has had a positive impact on your life? What did you learn from it and why are you grateful for it?
  56. Write about a meal or food that you love. What is special about it and why are you grateful for it?
  57. What is a piece of music or a song that you love? What does it mean to you and why are you grateful for it?
  58. Write about a place you have visited that you are grateful for. What did you experience there and why did it make an impact on you?
  59. What is a quality in yourself that you appreciate? How has it helped you in your life?
  60. Write about a friend who has been there for you in a difficult time. What did they do to support you and why are you grateful for them?
  61. What is a physical sensation that you enjoy? Why does it bring you pleasure and why are you grateful for it?
  62. Write about a person or organization that has helped you in a time of need. What did they do and how did it make a difference for you?
  63. What is something you have learned recently that you are grateful for? How has it expanded your understanding or enriched your life?
  64. Write about a personal attribute that you have that you appreciate. How has it helped you to achieve your goals or connect with others?
  65. What is a piece of art or design that you love? Why does it speak to you and why are you grateful for it?
  66. Write about a moment in nature that you have experienced that you are grateful for. What did you see or feel and why did it make an impact on you?
  67. What is a hobby or interest that brings you joy? How does it enrich your life and what are you grateful for in relation to it?
  68. Write about a positive change or transformation that you have experienced. What did you learn from it and why are you grateful for it?
  69. What is a conversation you have had recently that you are grateful for? What did you learn from it and how did it impact you?
  70. Write about a pet or animal that you love. What makes them special to you and why are you grateful for them?
  71. What is a personal attribute in someone else that you admire? How have they inspired you and why are you grateful for them?
  72. Write about a person who has taught you an important life lesson. What did you learn and how did it impact your life? Why are you grateful for this person?
  73. What is a modern convenience that you appreciate? How has it made your life easier or more enjoyable and why are you grateful for it?
  74. Write about a time when someone gave you a meaningful gift. What was the gift and why did it make you feel grateful?
  75. What is a tradition or ritual that you participate in that brings you joy? How does it contribute to your well-being and why are you grateful for it?
  76. Write about a time when you received unexpected kindness from a stranger. What did they do and how did it make you feel? Why are you grateful for this experience?
  77. What is a personality trait that you possess that you are grateful for? How does it help you navigate your life and connect with others?
  78. Write about a time when someone offered you forgiveness or understanding. What did they do and how did it impact you? Why are you grateful for this experience?
  79. What is a material possession that you have that you are grateful for? Why is it important to you and how does it enhance your life?
  80. Write about a time when you overcame a difficult obstacle or challenge. What did you learn and how did it make you feel? Why are you grateful for this experience?
  81. What is a smell or scent that you love? Why does it bring you pleasure and why are you grateful for it?
  82. Write about a time when you felt grateful to be alive. What was happening and why did it make you feel this way?
  83. What is a moment when you felt inspired by someone else’s words or actions? How did it impact you and why are you grateful for this experience?
  84. Write about a person who has helped you to achieve a personal goal. What did they do and how did it make a difference for you? Why are you grateful for their support?
  85. What is a time when you felt a deep sense of connection with someone else? What was happening and why did it make you feel grateful?
  86. Write about a time when you received unexpected help or support. What did the person do and how did it impact you? Why are you grateful for this experience?
  87. What is a historical figure or event that you are grateful for? How has it impacted your life or the world around you?
  88. Write about a time when you laughed uncontrollably. What was happening and why did it make you feel grateful?
  89. What is a quality in yourself that you are working to cultivate? How will it improve your life and why are you grateful for the opportunity to grow?
  90. Write about a time when someone showed you compassion or empathy. What did they do and how did it make you feel? Why are you grateful for this experience?
  91. What is a meal that you have shared with someone else that you are grateful for? Who was with you and what made it special?
  92. Write about a time when you received a compliment that made you feel good about yourself. What was said and why did it make you feel grateful?
  93. What is a place you have visited that you are grateful for? What did you experience there and why did it make an impact on you?
  94. Write about a time when you received recognition or praise for your work. What did it mean to you and why are you grateful for the acknowledgement?
  95. What is a favorite possession from your childhood? Why is it important to you and why are you grateful for it?
  96. Write about a time when someone gave you a second chance. What did they do and how did it make you feel? Why are you grateful for this experience?
  97. What is a sound that you enjoy hearing? Why does it bring you pleasure and why are you grateful for it?
  98. Write about a time when you learned a valuable lesson from a mistake. What happened and what did you learn? Why are you grateful for the experience?
  99. What is a part of your daily routine that you are grateful for? How does it contribute to your well-being and why are you thankful for it?
  100. Write about a time when you felt a sense of accomplishment. What did you achieve and how did it make you feel? Why are you grateful for this experience?
  101. What is a skill or talent that you possess that you are grateful for? How has it helped you and why are you thankful for it?
  102. Write about a time when you received an unexpected compliment or praise. What was said and how did it make you feel? Why are you grateful for this experience?
  103. What is a book or movie that has inspired you and why are you grateful for it?
  104. Write about a time when someone provided you with emotional support during a difficult time. What did they do and how did it help you? Why are you grateful for their support?
  105. What is a song that you love and why are you grateful for it?
  106. Write about a time when you felt a sense of peace or contentment. What was happening and why did it make you feel grateful?
  107. What is a piece of art or architecture that you appreciate? What do you admire about it and why are you grateful for it?
  108. Write about a time when you learned something new that you are grateful for. What did you learn and how has it impacted your life?
  109. What is a way that you have grown or changed in the past year that you are grateful for? How has it improved your life?
  110. Write about a time when you received unexpected good news. What was the news and how did it make you feel? Why are you grateful for this experience?
  111. What is a natural wonder that you have seen or experienced that you are grateful for? What did you see or experience and why did it make an impact on you?
  112. Write about a time when you felt grateful to be part of a community. What was happening and why did it make you feel this way?
  113. What is a holiday or celebration that you enjoy and why are you grateful for it?
  114. Write about a time when you received a small act of kindness from someone. What did they do and how did it make you feel? Why are you grateful for this experience?
  115. What is a way that technology has improved your life that you are grateful for? How has it made your life easier or more enjoyable?
  116. Write about a time when you felt proud of yourself. What did you do and how did it make you feel? Why are you grateful for this experience?
  117. What is a quote that inspires you and why are you grateful for it?
  118. Write about a time when you received unexpected positive feedback from someone. What did they say and how did it make you feel? Why are you grateful for this experience?
  119. What is a way that you have been able to help others that you are grateful for? How did it make you feel to be able to help?
  120. Write about a time when you received unexpected generosity from someone.
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How a Gratitude Journal can Change Your Life (and How to Start)

Posted on by Megan Hutchison

Gratitude is the practice of recognising and appreciating the positive aspects of our lives. 

Research has shown that cultivating gratitude can have a profound impact on our mental and physical health, relationships, and overall well-being. One effective way to cultivate gratitude is by keeping a gratitude journal, which is a daily or weekly practice of writing down things we are grateful for. In this article, we’ll explore the scientific research behind gratitude practice and the unique benefits of using a gratitude journal with journal prompt stickers.

Scientific Research on Gratitude Practice

Over the past two decades, there has been a growing body of scientific research on the benefits of gratitude practice. Studies have shown that practicing gratitude can:

One of the most effective ways to cultivate gratitude is through a daily or weekly practice of writing down things we are grateful for. This is where gratitude journals come in.

Using Journal Prompts to Practice Gratitude

Gratitude journals provide a structured way to practice gratitude on a regular basis. By making a habit of noticing and appreciating the positive aspects of our lives, we can rewire our brains to focus more on the good and less on the negative. 

While gratitude journaling is a simple practice, sometimes it can be challenging to come up with things we are grateful for, especially if we’re feeling down or stressed. That’s where journal prompt stickers can be especially helpful.

A journal prompt is a question, statement, or topic that is designed to inspire or guide someone’s writing in a journal. Journal prompts can be used to help individuals explore their thoughts, feelings, and experiences, or to encourage them to think creatively and reflectively.

Journal prompts can be as simple as a single word or phrase, such as “hope” or “gratitude,” or they can be more complex questions or statements, such as “What does success mean to you?” or “Write about a time when you faced a difficult decision.”

Journal prompts can be helpful for individuals who are new to journaling and are looking for guidance or inspiration, or for those who have been journaling for a while and want to challenge themselves with new topics or ideas.

Gratitude Journaling with Journal Prompt Stickers

Journal prompt stickers are a unique feature of our gratitude journal which comes with mindfulness and gratitude prompts. As recently featured in National Newspaper Sunday Star Times “the stickers help!”

Our journal prompt stickers are unique and innovative, helping writers to explore their thoughts, feelings, and experiences in a creative and interactive way. With over 100 prompts to choose from, it’s much easier to come up with things to be grateful for and it really gives the writer a sense of agency over their own gratitude practice. Journal prompt stickers can spark creativity and help you think outside the box when it comes to gratitude practice.

You can see some of our Gratitude Journal Prompt Stickers here:

The article featured some of our favourites (Virginia Fallon’s answers included)

If I could write a letter to my past self it would say: Forgive yourself. Everything is going to work out; everything will be fine.

An act of kindness I will always remember is: The woman who hugged me at the supermarket when my twin toddlers were awful, other shoppers were angry, and I was utterly out of cope.

10 tips for starting a regular Gratitude Journal Practice:

I know first-hand how useful the journal prompt stickers in our gratitude journal are, but here are 10 more tips to start your gratitude journal practice. By following these tips, you can establish a regular gratitude journal practice and start reaping the many benefits of gratitude in your life:

  1. Schedule a specific time each day to write in your journal, whether it’s in the morning, before bed, or during your lunch break.
  2. Set a goal for how often you want to write in your journal, such as daily or a few times a week.
  3. Start small, with just a few things you’re grateful for each day, and gradually increase the number over time.
  4. Use the journal prompt stickers to help guide your writing, but feel free to write about anything that you’re grateful for.
  5. Be specific in your writing, focusing on the details of what you’re grateful for rather than just general statements.
  6. Write about a variety of things you’re grateful for, including people, experiences, and even challenges that you’ve overcome.
  7. Try to write in your journal even on days when you’re feeling down or things aren’t going well – focusing on gratitude can help shift your mindset and improve your mood.
  8. Use your journal to reflect on the positive things that happened during the day, rather than dwelling on negative events.
  9. Make it a fun and creative experience by decorating your journal with stickers, drawings, or other embellishments.
  10. Remember that it’s okay to miss a day or two – just pick up where you left off and keep going.

By consciously acknowledging the good in our lives, we can shift our focus away from negativity and towards positivity, ultimately leading to greater feelings of contentment and satisfaction.

Wedding Planning with ADHD: 9 Steps to Get Started and Stay Motivated and On Track

Posted on by Megan Hutchison

Wedding planning can be a daunting task for anyone, but for people with ADHD, it can be particularly overwhelming. Planning a wedding can be a complex and demanding task that requires attention to detail, organization, and effective time management, and ADHD may present some challenges.

Even if you have been diagnosed, you may not be aware of exactly why the idea of planning a wedding feels so difficult to you, but essentially, for people with ADHD, “planning” can be a really difficult concept. So, before you begin planning, give yourself some grace, understand why planning is hard, and how you can overcome the struggle of getting organised.

In fact, if you can find enjoyment in the process of wedding planning, you may even be able to really excel at it. Don’t write yourself off – not everyone with ADHD will struggle with planning a wedding. Some will even get into a ‘hyperfocus’ mode with planning and organisation and it will be a breeze.

If you’re currently struggling with the idea of planning your wedding though, I completely understand (from a former Bride with ADHD) and know that with appropriate support and strategies, you can absolutely plan the Big Day of your dreams, and more importantly, enjoy doing it.

Why do People with ADHD have trouble with Planning?

ADHD affects your ability to pay attention, regulate your impulses, and even manage behaviour. People with ADHD may struggle to sustain attention and focus for extended periods, which can make it difficult to plan and complete complex tasks.

People with ADHD may also struggle with estimating how much time a task will take, which can lead to underestimating how much time they need for planning and preparation. Of course, for a wedding especially, this can result in disorganised and incomplete plans, which can ultimately lead to difficulty with follow-through.

How does Wedding Planning present a particular challenge?

First, the wedding planning process can be overwhelming, involving many details and decisions that need to be made. This can be especially challenging for individuals with ADHD, who may have difficulty breaking down large tasks into smaller, more manageable parts.

Additionally, people with ADHD may have difficulty with working memory and sustained attention, which can make it difficult to remember all the details and steps involved in planning a wedding. This can lead to disorganization and forgotten tasks, which can ultimately impact the success of the wedding planning process. People with ADHD may struggle with impulse control, which can lead to making hasty decisions or overlooking important details in the planning process.

Actionable Tips for Wedding Planning with ADHD

By taking these steps, you can start your wedding planning journey with confidence and ease.

  1. Set Priorities

    The first step to successful wedding planning is to set priorities. Determine what aspects of the wedding are most important to you and your partner. This will help you focus your attention and energy on the tasks that matter most. Make a list of your priorities and keep it in a visible place, such as your fridge or desk. This will serve as a reminder of what you’re working towards.
  2. Break it down into manageable tasks

    When you start wedding planning, the lack of structure and overwhelming amount of tasks to complete can be a recipe for procrastination and stress. One of the keys to successful wedding planning for couples with ADHD is to break wedding planning down into manageable tasks. Start by creating a to-do list of all the tasks that need to be completed. Then, prioritize the tasks and break them down into smaller, more manageable steps. For example, instead of “choose wedding invitations,” break it down into “research wedding invitation options” and “select and order wedding invitations.”
  3. Get organised

    Organisation is key for couples with ADHD. Use a wedding planner book, and/or binder or folder to keep all important documents and information in one place. This can include vendor contracts, receipts, guest lists, and to-do lists.

    One such tool is the little white book wedding planner which is specifically designed for simplicity and ease of use. The little white book is a great option for couples with ADHD as it includes a 12-month diary with integrated checklists, so everything is in one place. The little white book helps you by giving you a timeline of when you want to complete each task. Having a visual representation of the timeline can help you see the progress you’re making and keep you motivated.
  4. Set Deadlines

    ADHD can make it difficult to stay on track, so setting deadlines can be helpful for time management. Use your wedding planner to assign specific deadlines to each task. Be realistic about the time it will take to complete each task and build in extra time for unexpected setbacks. When you have a deadline to work towards, you may be more likely to stay on task and complete the task in a timely manner.
  5. Limit distractions

    Distractions can be a major roadblock for couples with ADHD when it comes to wedding planning. Set aside specific times to work on wedding planning tasks and eliminate any distractions during those times. This might mean turning off your phone, closing your email inbox, and finding a quiet workspace.
  6. Delegate tasks

    It’s important for couples with ADHD to recognize that they can’t do everything themselves. Consider delegating tasks to friends and family members who are willing to help. This could include tasks such as making centerpieces, addressing invitations, or helping with setup and cleanup on the day of the wedding.
  7. Take breaks

    Wedding planning can be a stressful and overwhelming process, especially for couples with ADHD. It’s important to take breaks and practice self-care throughout the planning process. This might mean taking a walk, practicing meditation, mindfulness and gratitude, or scheduling a massage or spa day.
  8. Get Support

    Wedding planning can be overwhelming, so it’s important to have a support system. Enlist the help of friends and family to assist with tasks or provide emotional support. Consider hiring a wedding planner to take some of the stress off of you.
  9. Focus on what’s important

    Finally, it’s important for couples with ADHD to focus on what’s truly important when it comes to their wedding day. Don’t get bogged down in minor details or become obsessed with perfection. Remember that the most important thing is to celebrate your love and commitment to each other with the people you care about most.

In conclusion, wedding planning can be challenging for couples with ADHD, but with some strategies and tools in place, it is possible to plan a beautiful and memorable wedding without getting overwhelmed. By using a wedding planner book like the little white book, breaking down tasks, setting realistic timelines, limiting distractions, getting organized, delegating tasks, taking breaks, and focusing on what’s important, couples with ADHD can plan a wedding that reflects their unique personalities and love story.

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