With many couples now getting married later in life, and having lived together for a number of years, many couples would rather kick-start their adventure as newlyweds with a honeymoon registry than ask for traditional household niceties. Lots of couples now ask for money via a wedding wishing well (cash) or a deposit into a designated account., As some families and older generations prefer to contribute towards something specific, and a honeymoon fund is a great way of letting them do so.
The cash dilemma – asking for money for your wedding gift
If you don’t want to ask your wedding guests for traditional wedding gifts, you might choose to ask for money via a wishing well or giving out your bank account (yes, it’s totally okay to ask for cash for your wedding gift!). However, the idea of giving your bank account out can feel a bit awkward.
A honeymoon registry is your own personalised online registry that lets you pick anything from holiday accommodation to flights to skydiving to cocktails on the beach and ask for contributions towards them.
Guests can contribute as much or as little as they like towards any items, you will have the money transferred to your account after the wedding, and your guests still feel like they’re giving you a specific gift. Who wouldn’t rather help you get to Samoa than just get some cash out of an ATM?
After the wedding, it’s also easy to download a list of who has contributed what so you can send them thank you’s and even photos of you using their gift – much nicer than a simple note thanking them for cash!
See some wording ideas for asking for wedding gifts on your invitations. Our friends chose this wording for their honeymoon fund, and I just think it’s the nicest way of doing so:
“We are so thankful that you have all travelled to join us on our special day in one way or another, and we feel this is the best present you could gift us. However, should you wish to still give a gift and not have a small something in mind, please read on…. We think it would be special to have your gift linked to an experience or an item to make it that much more memorable. So, should you wish for your contribution to go towards any of our ideas, please write which one (or multiple) in a card and pop it on our designated box at the wedding, then we will make sure we send an appropriate selfie of us enjoying the experience with you!”
Do you have to spend it on your honeymoon?
Nope! Even if you don’t want money for your honeymoon, you can ask for monetary contributions towards anything from a lounge suite to dinner out as newlyweds to a home deposit. The sky’s the limit – you can just pick what’s important to you.
See 8 Top Pacific Island Destinations to consider for your Honeymoon
Wedding Gifts: How to Choose and How to Politely word your Invitations
Inspo from a beautiful Destination Wedding in Samoa
